60 Ways To Make Your Wife Happy

We all pray for happy home, but less we adopt some important set of actions needed to enjoy tranquillity. Due to numerous requests, I have gone extra-miles to source for husband version ” 60 Ways To Keep Your Wife Happen” Source : muslimvillage.com

Enjoy;

1. Make her feel secure; QUIT BEING
AGGRESSIVE!
2. When you go home say
‘Assalamualikum.’ (Greetings) It kicks the
shaitaan out of your home!
3. Prophet salallahu alahi wasallam described
the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take
care of this vessel thats fragile. Remember
that there is goodness in this vessel so treat
it gently.
4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a
peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as its
a type of slandering.
5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED
6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm
her heart.
7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudhu at all
times. Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam said
if you are angry, sit down, if you’re sitting,
then lie down. Follow the sunnah!
8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT
keeps the LOVE!
9. Dont be rigid. It will break you. The Prophet
salallahu alaihi wasallam said ‘I am the best
amongst you and I am the best to my wife’.
Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close
to Allah and neither does it make you more
of a man.
10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER
11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is
like poison in a marriage. A pious person
once said said ‘When Allah wants evil for
people He will leave them to argue amongst
themselves’.
12. The Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam said
to call your wives with the best name, any
name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed
salallahu alaihi wasallam called Aisha ‘ya
Aa’ish’ as an endearment.
13. Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves
watermelon, bring her one out of the blue. It
will grow the love in her heart.
14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet salallahu
alaihi wasallam said the tongue will throw
people in the hell fire so watch what you say
and how you say it!
15. All of us have shortcoming. Accept her
shortcoming and Allah will put barakah in
your marriage.
16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you
appreciate her.
17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her
relatives and her parents.
18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.
19. In front of her relative praise her. Confirm/
realise that she is wonderful, and that she is
a good person in front of her family.
20. Give each other gifts. You will love each
other more. Gifts increases love.
21. Get rid of the routine once in a while,
surprise her with something, it will get rid of
the rust and polish it!
22. We have a demand from Allah that we have
to think good of people. Think good of your
spouse.
23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did
not see/hear some of her small mistakes. Its
like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t
save it in your memory!
24. Increase the drops of patience, especially
when she is pregnant or when she is on her
monthly period.
25. Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Aisha
radiallahu anha used to get jealous.
26. Be humble. If your profession is good, respect
that she is looking after your children, she is
much more than you, she is the leader at
home, her strength is your strength, and her
success is your successes.
27. Don’t put your friends above your wife.
28. Help your wife at home. Prophet salallahu
alaihi wasallam used to help his wives at
home and he was the best of creation. He
used to sew his own clothes.
29. Help her respect your parents, you cant force
her to love them, but she can be helped to
gradually love them.
30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife.
31. Remember your wife in your duaas. It will
increase the love and protect it.
32. Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and
grief. Its not your business. The past is for
Allah.
33. Don’t try to show her that you are doing her
a favour by doing something, like buying food
for the house, because in reality we are the
courier of sustenance, not the providers, as
Allah is the provider. Its also a way of being
humble and thankful to Allah.
34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife.
Sometime when husband and wife are talking
a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present
there as a third person so he is the real
enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan,
but you have to see him as an enemy as
Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves
divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office
and asks the devils what they have done,
some say I have made a person steal, or I
have made someone drink etc. And one devil
will say I have made a man divorce his wife,
and he is crowned as the one who has done
the best job.
35. Take the food and put it in her mouth.
Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam) taught us
this. Its a blessing. The food doesnt just go
to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It
increases the love and mercy between you.
36. Protect your wife from the evil of the
shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious
pearl that needs protecting from the envy of
human devilsand shaitaan.
37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. ITS
A CHARITY.
38. Small problems/ challenges can become a
big problem. Or if there is small thing
she didn’t like and you keep repeating them
anyway, it will create a wall between you.
Don’t ignore them as it can become big.
39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah
said of the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam
‘if you were harsh hearted they (the
companions) would have left you.’ It
confirms that the prophet salallahu alaihi
wasallam was not harsh hearted, so GET RID
OF IT.
40. Respect her thinking. It’s a strength for you.
Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.
41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her
to dig and find success within as her success
is your success.
42. Respect the intimate relationship and its
boundaries. The Prophet salallahu alaihi
wasallam said she is like a fragile vessel and
she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime
she may not be feeling well; you must respect
and appreciate that feeling.
43. Help her to take care of the children. Some
men think it makes them appear less of a
man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger
man and more respected, especially in the
sight of Allah.
44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk
her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist.
Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.
45. Sit down and eat with her and share food
with her.
46. Let her know you are travelling. Don’t tell her
out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her
the date/ time of when you are coming back
also.
47. Don’t leave the house as soon as trouble
brews.
48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you
take this privacy and secrecy to your friends
and family you are in danger of putting a
serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy
stays home. Islam is against leaving them
out like a garage sale for anyone to come
and pick and choose.
49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a
trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases
and strengthens the love when you help each
other perform a good deeds together i.e, do
tahajuud together, or recite the Qur’an
together or read an Islamic book together.
50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but
engraved in your heart and engraved in your
conscious.
51. Allah said ‘live with your wives in kindness.’
Treat them with kindness and goodness. It
means in happy times and in sadness treat
her with goodness and fairness.
52. Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam showed
that at the time of intimacy Be caring and
respectful.
53. When you have a dispute with your wife dont
tell everyone. Its like leaving your wounds
open to germs so be careful who you share
your problems and disputes with.
54. Show your wife you really care for her health.
Good health of your wife is your good health.
To care for her health shows her that you
love her.
55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter
how good you are you have shortcomings.
You are not as the only one who was
perfect in character was the Prophet
salallahu alaihi wasallam. Get rid of this
disease.
56. Share your problems, your happiness, and
your sadness with her.
57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy
when she is weak or strong as she is the
fragile vessel. Prophet salallahu alaihi
wasallam said that your wife is a trust in
your hand.
58. Remember you are her strength, someone to
lean on in times of hardship.
59. Accept her as she is. The Prophet salallahu
alaihi wasallam said that women are created
from the rib which is bent. If you try to
straighten her you will break her (divorce).
Prophet salallahu alaihi wasallam said that
you may dislike one habit in her but you will
like another manner in her so accept her as
she is.
60. Have good intention for your wife all the time,
Allah monitors your intention and your heart
at all times. Allah said Among His Signs is
that He created for you wives from among
yourselves, that you may find repose in them,
and He has put between you affection and
mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a
people who reflect.
May Allah fill our homes and hearts with
tranquillity, love and mercy now and forever!!! (By : Mufti Faraz al-Mahmudi) – Edited by Teslim Adeyemo

60 Ways To Keep Your Husband Happy

I believe these tips will go in long way in promoting tranquillity among spouses.

1. After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting.
2. Meet him with a cheerful face.
Put on clean clothes.
3. Beautify and perfume yourself.
4. Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
5. Receive him with loving and yearning sentences.
6. Beautify and Soften the Voice (for your husband only, it shouldn’t be used in front of non-mahram men).
7. Take good care of your body and fitness.
8. Bath regularly and, after the monthly period.
9. Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape.
10. Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tattoo.
11. Use the types of perfumes, colours, and clothes that your husband likes.
12. Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time. However,avoid excessiveness and, of course,only act as such in front of mahram men and women.
13. Hasten for intimacy when husband feels compulsion for it.
14. Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
15. Be satisfied with what Allah has allotted.
16. Remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.
17. Do not be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.
18. Look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah for all that is given to you.
19. Do not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
20. Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever Allah gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).
21. Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
22. Be grateful to your husband. 
If you are grateful, your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways.
23. If you are ungrateful, your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates? Avoid such situations.
24. Always remain loyal to him.
25. Compliance to him, particularly in times of calamities in your husband’s body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy.
26. Support him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
27. Follow him in all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram). In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
28. Try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
29. Please him if he is angry.
30. If you are mistaken, then apologize.
31. If he is mistaken then keep still instead of arguing or yield your right.Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
32. If he was angry because of external reasons then keep silent until his anger goes away.
33. Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him, etc.
34. Do not ask many questions or insist on knowing about what happened, (e.g. you should tell me what happened? … I must know what made you so angry… You are hiding something, and I have the right to know.)
35. Protect yourself from any prohibited relationships.
36. Keep the secrets of the family, particularly bedroom talks and things that your husband doesn’t like other people to know.
37. Take care of the house and children.
38. Take care of his money and properties.
39. Do not go out of your house without his permission; go out in appropriate dress.
40. Refuse people whom he does not like to come over.
41. Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place.
42. Be good to his parents and relatives.Welcome his guests.
43. Avoid problems with his relatives as much as you can.
44. Avoid putting him in a position where he has to choose between his mother and his wife.
45. Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, etc.
46. Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
47. Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc..
48. Do not follow or create unfounded doubts. 
49. Jealousy is a sign for wife’s love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc..
50. Be patient when you face poverty, strained circumstances and hardships (such as calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, getting fired) etc.
51. Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
52. Encourage him to pray at night.Listen and recite the Quran individually and with your husband.Remember Allah much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
53. Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners (adab) for women.
54. Support your husband’s activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
55. Keep house clean, decorated and well arranged. 
56. Prepare tasty and healthy foods.
57. Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.
58. Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.
59. Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
60. Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.

May Allah fill our homes and hearts with tranquillity, love and mercy now and forever, ameen.

WHO DETERMINES THE MARRIAGE AGE LIMIT?

Definitely it will not be a bunch of liberal
senators in a country majority of its citizen are
Muslims. Marriage is a sacrosanct religious
contract. The secular constitution has already
given, two consensual adults (biological) the
consent to engage in sexual intercourse, so what
is all this encroachment on religious sensitivities
of people. It is truly mischievous.
On religious issues that are liable to different
interpretation, Islam has accepted that only a
medically scientific reason can alter a decision.
Medically, from the age of 12, some girls can be
mothers. They can bear children and deliver them safely. Now in the west, despite the laws against underage marriage (less than 18), thousands of hundreds still gets pregnant out of illegal sexual activities. Islam as pragmatic Religion thus permit any individual, matured to engage in legal marriage to embrace all categories of human desires and protect teenagers from irresponsible pregnancy. A married pregnant teen is absolutely in safer socio-economic state of affairs than one
in an illegitimate teen pregnancy.
“About 93,000 teenagers, 8,000 of them under
the age of 16, become pregnant in Britain each
year. Just over half the pregnancies of those
under 16 end in abortion. In the West, only
Canada, New Zealand and the United States have higher rates.” The Prime Minister Tony Blair on learning that two other 12- year-olds were pregnant by their teen-age boyfriends had to call for a “new national moral purpose” and in June 2000, the government announced a $96 million plan aimed at cutting in half the number of teen pregnancies. The government also plans a major overhaul of sex education and contraceptive services, which will be publicised more openly and made more accessible”. [CNN oct11,99.]

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Last Flight To Portharcourt: Did Yakowa and Co Derseve To Die? By Ayobami Oyalowo

”Let the truth be told, if the roads
aren’t safe for us, even the air will
be contaminated for you.”
In writing this piece, I am well aware
that investigations into the air
mishap that claimed the lives of
Kaduna State Governor, Patrick
Yakowa and Former National
Security Adviser, Andrew Azazi (and
four others), over the weekend, are
ongoing. This piece is not an attempt
to jump the gun.
I am also aware that conspiracy
theories have been swirling around
since the disaster. Let’s get this out
of the way quickly since you asked: I
am not one to dismiss conspiracy
theories with a wave of the hand,
especially since I have Nigerian
blood flowing in my veins.
First it was disbelief, then shock.
Shock gave way to anger and fury as
footages of the wreckage in the
creeks of Bayelsa emerged in the
public domain . Why again? We
have succeeded in wasting more
lives as we are want to. Yes the
blood lust is never satiated.
Nigeria has now become a killing
field where blood must constantly
flow, even when it is avoidable and
unnecessary. Yes it was unnecessary
and you will discover as you read
further.
Oronto Douglas, an ordinary
presidential aide, with no benefit to
common Nigerians was burying his
father. Therefore Naval Choppers
must be converted into ‘kabukabu’
for the benefit of the ‘big man’ and
his guest.
We are a sick country!
You might want to ask what the
military has got to do with the burial
of a common Nigerian–a bloody
civilian, if you may. How does that
float anyone’s boat? Well you are
wrong. The deceased was not a
common Nigerian. He was the father
of Oronto, the loquacious aide of the
king of Otuoke, whom we
erroneously refer to as the president
of Nigeria.
Late last October, with this writer in
attendance, the anti-corruption
network, led by Dino Melaye called
the nation’s attention to the rot in the
Ministry of Niger Delta Affairs, in a
televised press conference. We
questioned the role of Setraco,
especially it’s non performance, on
the East-West road. But instead of
the government of Mr. Jonathan to
look into our claims and hold
Orubebe to account, he removed the
minister of state in that ministry –
presumably for divulging
information. This is what you get
when the government is made up of
corrupt and irresponsible
individuals, bent on running a
government as if it were a “boys”
social club. If that road were in good
condition, the Naval choppers would
not have been used as “kabukabu” to
ferry the fortunate thieves in power.
I am not inhumane neither am I a
sadist, but time has come to shed all
emotional toga and ask the right
questions. Why are the rulers of
Nigeria so blind and deaf to
realities? Instead of fixing the roads,
they fly private jets and choppers,
presumably to safeguard themselves,
while the blood of the common man
continually paints the death traps
called trunk “A” roads.
It saddened me when I read the
account of what happened in the
home of Navy Lt Adeyemi Sowole,
the 32-year-old man whose wife is
presently carrying a nine month old
baby. Until these thieving’
polithivians’ (politicians) are called
to question, I doubt if there is one
single Nigerian family that won’t
have a sad tale to tell. His mother
was already in a hospital before his
untimely death. I fear to think what
will happen to the old woman and his
young wife.
Here are a few posers: who gave the
authorisation for a military aircraft
to be used to chauffeur polithivians
as if it was a common taxi cab? In
fact there were unconfirmed reports
that Timi Dakolo, an ordinary
musician, was billed to be in that
aircraft if not for his good fortune. If
there was no accident, Nigerians may
never have known the extent of
abuse and show of power that goes
on in the presidency. A military
chopper is a public property that
ought to be used only for military
purposes, emergency or other public
good. Was the burial of Pa Oronto of
any economic, social or human
benefit to the Nigerian public?
The president is the commander in
chief of the armed forces and you
don’t need a soothsayer to tell you
that he must have granted the
approval for security machinery to
be used in such banal and
irresponsible manner. That
acquiescence makes the president
complicit in the needless death of
innocent citizens. Yes, he is
complicit and culpable because there
is no way he can claim not to have a
foreknowledge that the Nigerian
Naval Helicopter has been
commandeered to private and
irresponsible usage.
‘Bellanaija’ reported:
“A senior naval officer told Punch
that the helicopter was on its 15th
trip for the day when the accident
occurred. The aircraft had been
shuttling between Okoroba and Port
Harcourt, carrying guests to and
from the venue of the burial of the
father of President Goodluck
Jonathan’s aide, Oronto Douglas, in
Okoroba.
“The helicopter was made available
for the use of guests at the funeral.
One thing I can say is that it was
going on its 15th trip when it
crashed. I cannot say whether this
could affect the performance of the
helicopter,” the naval source said.
The source also said that
investigators would also look into
the possibility that the aircraft had
been “overstretched” for the day.”
The above scenario may or may not
be factual, but can we ever be sure to
know what the truth is? It was also
reported that the chopper caught fire
before it crashed. But I guess we
would never know the true position
of things. Experience has shown that
the result of past investigations had
either been shrouded in mystery,
controversy or outright
misinformation.
Until there is openness and
transparency in our government,
rumours, innuendoes and hearsays,
will forever reign supreme. Same
opaqueness in public circles is why
nobody knows the whereabouts or
state of health of Governors Liyel
Imoke, Sullivan Chime and Danbaba
“the flying” Suntai.
While our prayers are with the
families of the bereaved, we must
not allow the government to
befuddle us with mourning, while we
forget to hold them to account.
We must demand answers as to what
exactly transpired. Why will
characters like Oronto and his ilk
choose which military carrier to fly
in? He should be ashamed and the
blood of the slain must be on his
conscience for being the immediate
cause of their deaths by his
thoughtless and illegal use of
paraphernalia of office to prove his
“arrival” and importance to
whosoever it was, he was trying to
impress.
Finally, I call on government to rise
from their docile irresponsibility.
They have refused to attend to the
basics of governance. The Yuletide
is here. Nigerians will be on the
roads travelling all over for the
festivities. But it is clear that the
government doesn’t give a damn. If
they did, the president will not be
buying another jet and two more
choppers, rather than fixing the death
traps we presently call roads.
Danbaba Suntai of Taraba is a victim
of his own medicine. He reportedly
built a private airstrip so he could fly
over his people, while other citizens
continue to perish on the roads his
government has refused to fix.
Just last week, we lost another
promising young man on the Lagos-
Ibadan expressway. Countless
unnamed Nigerians are daily dying
or maimed on our roads,while Akwa
Ibom and Rivers State Governors
purchase jets at will.
And you call this a country?!
Let the truth be told, if the roads
aren’t safe for us, even the air will be
contaminated for you. A word is
enough for the wise. As you lay your
bed, so shall you sleep on it.
The writer is on Twitter @Ayourb